Magic Of Making Up Guide - Most Important Book On Making Up
Desperation when a person is dumped is usually the first emotion displayed especially if the decision has “come out of left field.”
How you react when you hear those piercing words for the first time will determine to a great extent whether you’ll eventually win back your ex. T W Jackson has nailed this desperation factor “to a tee” in The Magic Of Making Up so much so, those with the ability to keep it in check and a cool head almost have an unfair advantage by using it.
You see, getting angry and arguing or trying to convince your ex that she/he is making a big mistake and should come to their senses is really just “driving another nail in the coffin.”
In other words, Jackson says, you should simply play it calm, agree with the decision, even to the point of suggesting you were thinking a lot about the same thing lately, and go on your way.
Do you see what you’ve just accomplished. You’ve virtually turned a gut-wrenching situation on it’s head. Instead of leaving with your tail between your legs, you’re leaving with most of your dignity still intact, your self esteem at a reasonable level but more importantly, you’ve touched that part of the human psyche that deals with wanting what we can’t have.
Now, you begin the road back into your spouse’s arms. If you let desperation take over then you’re just throwing further fuel on the fire. Arguing will just convince your spouse that he/she has made the right decision; trying to get them to re-think their decision will just convince them they’ve made the right decision; acting wimpy and telling them you’ll do something drastic if they let you go may just get a round of endorsement.
If you’re thinking by agreeing with them and walking out without an initial fight for your right to stay is giving up too easily, then think again.
The Magic Of Making Up can guide you right back into the arms of your ex. It’s simply a matter of keeping a cool head and applying the techniques taught.