Keeping The Groom’s Sanity
During wedding provisions, all eyes are on the bride-to-be. Everything has to be done her way - her ideas, her choices, her vision. It’s her special to be able to control how it goes. The people around her acknowledge this, so they concur. Not to point out that they don’t want the bride turning into a bridezilla.
But what about the groom? Shouldn’t he be allowed the same amount of consideration as the bride-to-be? Is there no possibility of grooms turning into a groomzilla? It’s his day too, and unless if he has married and divorced three times, he will go through the same jitters as the bride. Well, that and the fact that he has to deal with a frazzled out bride.
If you are a groom-to-be worrying over your bride-to-be-bridezilla, there are a few things you can do to maintain the peace and your good sense pending the big day. Of course, custom calls for you to pay attention to what the bride wants. But this doesn’t mean that you allow her to have pink as your wedding theme when it practically hurts your vision. I’m sure she wouldn’t want you choices, be ready to give way to some of her ideas.
Let your bride know what you want. Share your ideas so that you both arrive at a concession - from deciding on cheap groomsmen gifts to the caterer and the florist. Tell your bride if you fancy giving out a flask, or a cigar flask as favors to the guys, the type of meal you want served, and if you care to, the sort of flora you like. Or, you can divide the duty both ways - you decide on the groomsmen stuff, while she picks the florists, and then the two of you can work on the caterer. Seems fair enough, right?
Your wedding day is not about just you or your bride - it’s regarding the two of you. So make sure you achieve some sort of understanding when making decisions about your wedding details. Ideally, this should be recognized before any of your family members get caught up in the preparation. Otherwise, planning for your wedding will be more complicated than it should be.
If you’re not at ease with so many people making decisions on what’s supposed to be an personal day for the two of you, let your bride know. That’s really the main thing - communication. You should keep the lines clear, and you also have to learn how to listen, as well as share your thoughts. Keep this in mind, and you won’t be turning into a groomzilla, and neither will your bride turn become the feared bridezilla.